Patters of interracial dating
Whether it is looking less strong, or changing our hair, or not complaining when people say shit about our hair, or being more submissive, more feminine, like whatever the fuck it is.
Because there is a big gaping difference between what my value is, and what it is perceived to be.The study, released in the middle of December, found a rise in interracial relationships especially with Asians, Hispanics, and Native Indians/Alaskan Natives.But whites and blacks are also marrying other races more today than in the past. For instance, Asian women were far more apt to marry white or black men than Asian men were to find a relationship outside their race.Whatever shitty totem pole that exists and puts black women at the bottom and white girls at the top.It’s called ‘being at the intersection of American sexism, American racism and American patriarchy.’ I didn’t build that shit, and whatever warped perception people have because of it has nothing to do with me.Black women deserve better than to live in constant panic that Becky and Marquese are married while Keisha is still single.
We are more than a collection of the horrible stereotypes and statistics that seem to constantly swirl around us.
But here’s the other thing; “What the fuck can you even do?
” Look, black women have been marching on the front lines, pledging their allegiance to black D, going to bat for questionable men, building bridges, singing ballads, and by and large, it hasn’t changed the trend or the narrative.
This is something I feel strongly about.) If there is one thing I have learned about being a black woman in America it is that we are tasked with internalizing the toxicity spewed at us.
Our girls can’t be girls, we often aren’t seen as human, let alone women, and it is our job to “fix” everybody’s issue with us.
One of the base principles of relationships is this: You cannot change a man.