How to not take dating too seriously
There’s a scientific reason why husbands and wives often feel like they’re having completely different conversations.It’s called the closeness communication bias, a theory that suggests the tighter you are with someone, the more you assume you know what they’re saying.
That said, making sure you’re both happy with the amount of sex you regularly have is essential, so if either of you are often too tired to do the deed, it may be time to get creative and, say, set the alarm an hour earlier so you can start the morning on a high note.For example, the real issue may not be that a blast from the past showed up in his newsfeed, but that you’re spending hours in your individual worlds, which is cutting into your together time.Instead of demanding your husband unfriend his ex, plan a tech time-out during which you can focus on new ways to connect with each other.Another option: Try a couple-based app like Avocado or Couple, which put all your texts in one place.Plus, on both apps, you can “thumb kiss” by causing a vibration when you both put your fingers on the same part of your screen—a no-words reminder that even on the most crazy-busy day, you and he are still connected.For instance, if you checked with a friend about whether she planned to go to the gym, you’d probably add that you asked because you were wondering if she wanted to hit the same yoga class or get a post-workout smoothie.
But couples often leave out the explanation, which can lead to misunderstandings.
star Jason Biggs admits to having tried one with his wife! Telling you about his experience speaks to the high level of trust in your relationship—not that he wants to try another round.
And if he says it was awkward, uncomfortable, and that the highlight of the night was when the three of them put their clothes back on and ordered pizza, trust him.
That’s why it’s key that both of you are clear on its role in your relationship.
Knowing you’ll check in with each other a few times a day and that no response likely means you’re swamped can help avoid feeling text-neglect.
It may even help facilitate a conversation about turn-ons, turn-offs, and how you and he can make your relationship even better.